Who pays for what at your wedding?

The following is a breakdown of the customary costs, but do keep in mind that families need to be flexible, and what’s most important is that you create the day of your dreams, without breaking anyone’s budget.

Bride's Family
· Groom's ring
· bridesmaid luncheon
· the first engagement party
· invitations, announcements, enclosures, personal stationery, wedding programs, thank-you notes
· brides dress, veil, accessories, trousseau
· mother of the brides dress, father of the brides formalwear
· floral arrangements for ceremony and reception sites, bouquets for bridesmaids and flower girls
· fees for ceremony site, sexton, organist, soloist, rental of aisle carpet, marquee, or huppah
· engagement and wedding photos and video
· transportation of bridal party to ceremony and reception site
· all professional reception services, food, drinks, decorations, music, etc.
Bride buys wedding gifts for her attendants and the groom.


Groom's Family
· Brides engagement and wedding ring
· engagement party (it should follow any festivities hosted by the brides family)
· a rehearsal dinner
· grooms thank-you notes
· personal stationery
· grooms formalwear
· his mothers dress, his fathers formalwear
· brides bouquet, corsages for both mothers and grandmothers, boutonnieres for best man and ushers
· marriage license, clergy member or judges fee
· limousine to airport, complete honeymoon
Groom buys wedding gifts for attendants and the bride.



Attendants
· Best man and/or ushers host the bachelor party
· maid of honor and/or bridesmaids host a bridal shower and may host a girls night out
· maid of honor and bridesmaids pay for their dresses and accessories (shoes, too), ushers pay for rental of their formalwear
· attendants who live in the area may offer out of town attendants a place to stay
· attendants may give wedding gifts individually, or pool their resources for a group gift



Options to share
· Brides or grooms family may offer heirloom rings
· brides family may host the rehearsal dinner
· bride or her family may pay for bridesmaids dresses and accessories, groom or his family may pay for ushers rentals
· bouquets may be purchased by brides family, bride may give corsages to mothers and grandmothers
· couple may cover all ceremony costs
· one family may pay for photography, the other for videography, the groom€s parents or the couple may pay for any extra prints
· either family may arrange for transportation, babysitters, a welcome buffet for out of town guests, or lodging for out of town attendants
· grooms family may offer to share reception costs, or cover specific services (liquor, musicians, etc.)
· couple may buy thank-you gifts for parents and friends or relatives who helped with planning


Nowadays costs are split among relatives in a number of different ways. You could split the costs evenly between yourselves, the parents of the groom and the parents of the bride. You could also just split it between yourselves like many young people are doing these days.

This is one of the reasons it is important to plan your wedding day far in advance. Some may resort to taking out credit card loans. Be careful in this arena because you may not want to be paying for a wedding 10 years later. If you have to take out a credit card loan, try to save as much money before the wedding so you minimize how much you need to borrow. And last but not least, shop around to get the best price considering quality. This is another reason you need to plan early. You never know what deal may be lurking around the corner!

Written by:
Keisha Edwards
Wedding Consultant
Arystocratt
arystocratt@bellsouth.net